Power of Gentleness

Winner, French Voices Award for excellence in publication and translation. "A profound philosopher and psychoanalyst"-New York Times "With rigor and charm, Anne Dufourmantelle breaks in an emergent concept--crucial yet unclassifiable--that has been overlooked by the big guns of philosophical discourse. The notion of gentleness resets the hermeneutics of affect and ontology."-Avital Ronell, New York University Key moments of our lives, especially at the beginning and end, are marked by gentleness-but the simplicity of that concept is misleading. Gentleness is an active passivity that may become an extraordinary force of resistance within ethics and politics. In this powerful rethinking by a renowned philosopher and psychoanalyst, gentleness becomes a series of embodied paradoxes: power that is also soft, nobility that is also humble, sweetness that is also intelligent, subtlety that is nevertheless striking, fragility that has the potential to subvert the status quo. Across Western and Eastern religion, philosophy, literature, and art, gentleness is marked by the complexities and ambivalences characteristic of that which we experience through the senses. Yet today, we are most familiar with a gentleness sold to us in the diluted form of mawkishness. This is how we try to evade its subtlety-no longer by fighting it, but by enfeebling it. In the name of our highest values-happiness, truth, security-we enforce "gentle" safeguards against hurt, sealing ourselves off from the life-affirming gamble that a true gentleness affords. True gentleness entails an ethic of desire. Against a society that crushes human beings "gently," Dufourmantelle celebrates the uncompromising gentleness discovered by Gandhi and other revolutionaries. At the same time, within the despair confided by her patients, she traces the force of resistance and intangible magic that gentleness offers in the lived experience of ordinary women and men who fully embrace the risk of living. Anne Dufourmantelle (1964-2017), philosopher and psychoanalyst, taught at the European Graduate School and wrote monthly columns for the Paris newspaper Liberation. Her books in English include Blind Date: Sex and Philosophy, and, with Jacques Derrida, Of Hospitality.